Marriage
  1. Polygamy In The Us
  2. Which Countries Allow Polygamy Marriage
  3. What States Allow Polygamy Marriages

Igwe discovered a show, Polygamy, USA on National Geographic, and it had both of us shocked. This show is about a community of Mormons who live in Centennial Park, Utah. They split from the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (FLDS Church, also known as Mormon Fundamentalists). There is a bigger story to this FLDS stuff, but I don’t feel like researching that much into.

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This show is a reality TV and documentary type show. The short part of the story is that this is a polygamist community where the men have at least two wives. The interesting part is how this polygamy works. I’ll give you some examples:

1. The men don’t choose wives; wives choose them. So basically, a single woman decides who she wants to marry.

2. But technically, she doesn’t decide. She waits until God puts an impression on her heart and tells her that Tom, Dick, or Harry is her husband.

3. Tom, Dick, or Harry could be of any marital status: single or married

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4. Tom, Dick, or Harry could also be of any age. He could be a grand father for all she knows.

5. Single men are not allowed to date or have sex.

6. The single women pray to God for an impression of their future husband. If they get an impression before they are 18, they have to wait till they are 18 to get married.

7. One of the founding fathers, Arthur, 64 spends time with over 30 young and unmarried men. The boys do a lot of physical labor, and this is all done to make them stronger, tougher, and more ready for the future.

8. Obviously, some people choose not to stay in Centennial Park, and they choose to live their own lives where they date, have relationships, etc.

9. These people practice polygamy in the name of God, and they also pray in the name of God (and Jesus).

10. There is a group of men called “The Brethren,” and they are like the Elders and Lawmakers of the community. For example, when a girl gets an impression from God, she goes to “The Brethren”

I find it very interesting that women do the choosing here. However, the irony is that in spite of her choosing her husband, this marital arrangement and way of life does not at all favor the woman. I mean, she chooses the husband, they get married, she bears as many children as her body can push out, and she remains his only wife until another woman gets an impression from God to marry him. She dresses only in long skirts and long sleeve blouses, which an outsider immediately notices. The man, however, is dressed like a regular man.

If a woman does not get an impression and she begins to get worried, she can seek help. She’ll just have to go see The Brethren because they have a direct line to God. That’s the belief. This community believes that being in a plural marriage is God’s will and our their way to say thank You to God.

I find it interesting that they believe that one of the beauties of a polygamous marriage is that if one of the wives cannot have a baby, then it wouldn’t be too bad because her sister wife will have a baby and she can take care of him/her. Excuse me??? I’m thinking that the only thing worse than not having a baby is having a sister wife who has a baby. Screw that. I’ll kill them both … and the husband who even dares to make me a sister wife. Tufia kwa. God forbid bad thing.

I do find it interesting though that it is illegal to have a polygamous marriage in America, so because of this, only the first wife is legally married to the man. The rest are basically baby mamas in the eyes of the law. Yet, there are fights and protests to make homosexual marriages legal. Is that because there aren’t enough polygamous families to make a big stand like the LGBT community? Or is that because gay love is less of a taboo than polygamous love? Oh, the irony.

There are many reasons why this kind of polygamous marriage cannot and will not work in Nigeria, but this post has become too long, so watch out for Part II.

P.S. Please understand that I am, by no means, a supporter of polygamous marriage. To each his own, but I am not interested.

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The question of polygamy is an interesting one in that most people today view polygamy as immoral while the Bible nowhere explicitly condemns it. The first instance of polygamy/bigamy in the Bible was that of Lamech in Genesis 4:19: “Lamech married two women.” Several prominent men in the Old Testament were polygamists. Abraham, Jacob, David, Solomon, and others all had multiple wives. Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines (essentially wives of a lower status), according to 1 Kings 11:3. What are we to do with these instances of polygamy in the Old Testament? There are three questions that need to be answered: 1) Why did God allow polygamy in the Old Testament? 2) How does God view polygamy today? 3) Why did it change?

1) Why did God allow polygamy in the Old Testament? The Bible does not specifically say why God allowed polygamy. As we speculate about God’s silence, there is at least one key factor to consider. Due to patriarchal societies, it was nearly impossible for an unmarried woman to provide for herself. Women were often uneducated and untrained. Women relied on their fathers, brothers, and husbands for provision and protection. Unmarried women were often subjected to prostitution and slavery.
So, it seems that God may have allowed polygamy to protect and provide for the women who could not find a husband otherwise. A man would take multiple wives and serve as the provider and protector of all of them. While definitely not ideal, living in a polygamist household was far better than the alternatives: prostitution, slavery, or starvation. In addition to the protection/provision factor, polygamy enabled a much faster expansion of humanity, fulfilling God’s command to “be fruitful and increase in number; multiply on the earth” (Genesis 9:7). Men are capable of impregnating multiple women in the same time period, causing humanity to grow much faster than if each man was only producing one child each year.
2) How does God view polygamy today? Even while allowing polygamy, the Bible presents monogamy as the plan that conforms most closely to God’s ideal for marriage. The Bible says that God’s original intention was for one man to be married to only one woman: “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife [not wives], and they will become one flesh [not fleshes]” (Genesis 2:24). While Genesis 2:24 is describing what marriage is, rather than how many people are involved, the consistent use of the singular should be noted. In Deuteronomy 17:14-20, God says that the kings were not supposed to multiply wives (or horses or gold). While this cannot be interpreted as a command that the kings must be monogamous, it can be understood as declaring that having multiple wives causes problems. This can be clearly seen in the life of Solomon (1 Kings 11:3-4).
In the New Testament, 1 Timothy 3:2, 12 and Titus 1:6 give “the husband of one wife” in a list of qualifications for spiritual leadership. There is some debate as to what specifically this qualification means. The phrase could literally be translated “a one-woman man.” Whether or not this phrase is referring exclusively to polygamy, in no sense can a polygamist be considered a “one-woman man.” While these qualifications are specifically for positions of spiritual leadership, they should apply equally to all Christians. Should not all Christians be “above reproach...temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money” (1 Timothy 3:2-4)? If we are called to be holy (1 Peter 1:16), and if these standards are holy for elders and deacons, then they are holy for all.

Polygamy In The Us

Ephesians 5:22-33 speaks of the relationship between husbands and wives. When referring to a husband (singular), it always also refers to a wife (singular). “For the husband is the head of the wife [singular] … He who loves his wife [singular] loves himself. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife [singular], and the two will become one flesh....Each one of you also must love his wife [singular] as he loves himself, and the wife [singular] must respect her husband [singular].” While a somewhat parallel passage, Colossians 3:18-19, refers to husbands and wives in the plural, it is clear that Paul is addressing all the husbands and wives among the Colossian believers, not stating that a husband might have multiple wives. In contrast, Ephesians 5:22-33 is specifically describing the marital relationship. If polygamy were allowable, the entire illustration of Christ’s relationship with His body (the church) and the husband-wife relationship falls apart.
3) Why did it change? It is not so much God’s disallowing something He previously allowed as it is God’s restoring marriage to His original plan. Even going back to Adam and Eve, polygamy was not God’s original intent. God seems to have allowed polygamy to solve a problem, but it is not the ideal. In most modern societies, there is absolutely no need for polygamy. In most cultures today, women are able to provide for and protect themselves—removing the only “positive” aspect of polygamy. Further, most modern nations outlaw polygamy. According to Romans 13:1-7, we are to obey the laws the government establishes. The only instance in which disobeying the law is permitted by Scripture is if the law contradicts God’s commands (Acts 5:29). Since God only allows for polygamy, and does not command it, a law prohibiting polygamy should be upheld.

Which Countries Allow Polygamy Marriage

Are there some instances in which the allowance for polygamy would still apply today? Perhaps, but it is unfathomable that there would be no other possible solution. Due to the “one flesh” aspect of marriage, the need for oneness and harmony in marriage, and the lack of any real need for polygamy, it is our firm belief that polygamy does not honor God and is not His design for marriage.

What States Allow Polygamy Marriages